What Men Really Want

Ladies, I have come to this conclusion .. according to the analysis of my previous relationships and my readings .. let me give you some advice … We can throw all our stupid self-help, why- doesn't - he - love - me books out, because this is all we need to know: Men will treat us the way we let them ..

There is no such thing as “deserving” respect; you get what you demand from people .. if you demand respect, he will either respect you or he won’t associate with you … It really is that simple …

Honest communication is top priority for men .. They want a woman who answers questions honestly, and perhaps even volunteers information .. They want a woman who confidently asks for her wants and needs to be met .. They want a woman who can see the truth and tell it like it is while communicating with kindness .. Men want a woman who can communicate without being too critical, who cares about preserving his and her dignity ..

Men want a woman to choose them out of want rather than out of desperation — either materially or emotionally .. Men need to be wanted and needed by their partners, but they want their partners to have a separate identity .. Ladies, please note that they don’t want someone clingy .. If you are one person who has her own set of friends and can hang out by yourself, you are closer to hitting the jackpot ..

Men want no manipulation of any kind .. They do not want to read their partner’s mind or try to interpret signals .. They do not want to be forced to move faster in a relationship than they are ready .. They do not want to be manipulated into taking all the blame for things gone wrong .. They do not want to be on the receiving end of game playing ..

Men want a partner who can laugh at herself and who has courage and strength .. They want a woman who can see her part in relationship dynamics and own it .. She has to be emotionally stable .. Men want a woman who is developing herself personally, and who takes responsibility for her emotional experience ..

Fidelity is an absolute must .. In fact, men want a woman who does not have a “roaming eye” and who can wholeheartedly commit to the relationship .. Many may define commitment as fidelity plus the willingness to work on the relationship — even when the going gets tough ..

Most men want acknowledgment and appreciation from women .. The most powerfully romantic card a woman could give a man on Valentine’s Day would not be one that tells him how much she loves him and adores him .. No, the kind of card that he would keep and show his buddies (who would react with stunned awe and envy) would be a card in which she tells him how deeply she respects and admires him, how much she appreciates all he does for her and their family ..

So ladies, how about you write a card to your man, telling him genuinely how much you respect him, and see how he reacts? Let me know in the comments below! And Guys, let me know if I’m right .. 

More to read :

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/samantha-daniels/10-types-of-women-a-man-w_b_2911111.html

http://shine.yahoo.com/love-sex/men-really-want-woman-224000399.html

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/dating-advice/what-men-want#slide-1

http://www.cosmopolitan.com/celebrity/exclusive/dane-cook-new-album-advice-for-women

http://joshfults.com/tag/what-men-want-in-marriage/#oogleto:http://joshfults.files.wordpress.com/2012/08/what-men-want

Love and Life

A lovely story – Very Very Touching !!! 

This story tells us something about LOVE & LIFE .. How our expectations can be a mismatch if we are not ready to listen and understand ..

My husband is S/W Engineer by profession, I love him for his steady nature and I love the warm feeling when I lean against his broad shoulders ..

Two years of courtship and now, five years into marriage, I would have to admit, that I am getting tired of it. The reasons of me loving him before, has now transformed into the cause of all my restlessness ..

I am a sentimental woman and extremely sensitive when it comes to a relationship and my feelings. I yearn for the romantic moments,like a little girl yearning for candy.
My husband is my complete opposite; his lack of sensitivity, and the inability of bringing romantic moments into our marriage has disheartened me about LOVE.

One day, I finally decided to tell him my decision, that I wanted a divorce.“Why?” he asked, shocked. “I am tired .. There are no reasons for everything in the world!” I answered. He kept silent the whole night, seemingly in deep thought .. My feeling of disappointment only increased. Here was a man who was not able to even express his predicament, so what else could I expect from him?

 

And finally he asked me: “What can I do to change your mind? ”

Somebody said it right… It`s hard to change a person`s personality, and I guess, I have started losing faith in him.

Looking deep into his eyes I slowly answered: “Here is the question. If you can answer and convince my heart, I will change my mind. Let`s say, I want a flower located on the face of a mountain cliff, and we both are sure that picking the flower will cause your death. Will you do it for me?” He said: “I will give you your answer tomorrow…. ”

My hopes just sank by listening to his response. I woke up the next morning to find him gone, and saw a piece of paper with his scratchy handwriting underneath a milk glass, on the dining table near the front door, that goes …. My dear, “I would not pick that flower for you, but….please allow me to explain the reasons further…..This first line was already breaking my heart .. I continued reading ..

“When you use the computer you always mess up the Software programs, and you cry in front of the screen. I have to save my fingers so that I can help to restore the programs.

You always leave the house keys behind, thus I have to save my legs to rush home to open the door for you.

You love traveling but always lose your way in a new city. I have to save my eyes to show you the way.

You always have the cramps whenever your “good friend” approaches every month. I have to save my palms so that I can calm the cramps in your tummy.

You like to stay indoors, and I worry that you will be infected by infantile autism. I have to save my mouth to tell you jokes and stories to cure your boredom.

You always stare at the computer, and that will do nothing good for your eyes. I have to save my eyes so that when we grow old, I can help to clip your nails and help to remove those annoying white hairs. So I can also hold your hand while strolling down the beach, as you enjoy the sunshine and the beautiful sand…and tell you the colour of flowers, just like the colour of the glow on your young face …

Thus, my dear, unless I am sure that there is someone who loves you more than I do… I could not pick that flower yet, and die … ”

My tears fell on the letter, and blurred the ink of his handwriting. .. and as I continue on reading… “Now, that you have finished reading my answer, and if you are satisfied, please open the front door for I am standing outside bringing your favorite bread and fresh milk…

I rushed to pull open the door, and saw his anxious face, clutching tightly with his hands, the milk bottle and loaf of bread …. 

Now I am very sure that no one will ever love me as much as he does, and I have decided to leave the flower alone … That`s LIFE, and LOVE.

When one is surrounded by love, the feeling of excitement fades away, and one tends to ignore the true love that lies in between the peace and dullness .. Love shows up in all forms; even in very small and cheeky forms .. It has never been a model .. It could be the dullest and most boring form … Flowers, and romantic moments are only used and appear on the surface of the relationship. Under all this, the pillar of true love stands … AND THAT`S LIFE .. So what are you cribbing and complaining in life .. find the best in your partners, appreciate and acknowledge it … today … now.