Single is not a status. It is a word that describes a person who is strong enough to live and enjoy life without depending on others …
I like being single, because I’m always there when I need me ..
Being single doesn't mean that you are unloved, unwanted, unhappy, or unappreciated. In the end, it’s wiser to be single, then in the wrong relationship ..
Some people believe that :
Marriage is destiny .. Divorce is a decision ..
Sadness is destiny .. Happiness is a decision ..
Meeting somebody is destiny .. Keeping him in your life or not is a decision ..
We have no influence on our destiny but we sure have every influence on our decisions …
So is being single a twist of fate or is it a choice we make .. ??
Do we decide not to get married or is it predestined ??
Yesterday I had a very interesting conversation with a very dear friend of mine .. he knows this great young lady who in our culture, missed “the train of marriage”, an old spinster .. cause she’s over 40 and is still single .. in his opinion this young lady is one of a kind .. pretty, attractive, intelligent, funny, witty, successful, comes from a good family .. so he cannot see any reason why she is still single .. if he weren’t happily married, he would have married her himself ..
..To him, the way he described it .. it was like arriving late at a banquet were the whole buffet has been wiped out by the guests but an extremely delicious cake which nobody touched .. with the right shape, the perfect ingredients and all the yummy toppings .. so why didn't anybody claim it .. ?? Why hasn't anybody approached it ??
I thought about it a bit .. then using his same example .. I told him that maybe they find the cake too much to digest .. no one has a stomach strong enough .. they all are afraid they would get indigestion .. so they prefer to be safe than sorry ..
or maybe the cake doesn't really want to be eaten .. why messing up the perfection .. preferring to stay in one piece .. not wanting to be cut in pieces and scattered here and there .. and according to the law of attraction it just transmits this to the outside .. so nobody touches it ..
Or maybe the cake is just waiting for the right one to come and claim it all in one piece .. the right one .. very rhetorical .. ?? Typical ??
maybe it is just her destiny ..
This is what I could come up with .. I think that there are some great women who stay single because no one dared to approach them .. maybe intimidated by her looks, her intelligence, success .. afraid not being able to handle her .. but maybe if they tried, they might find out that there is nothing intimidating about her ..
But I also know some great women who by choice remain single .. The marriage institution is just not for them .. turning down proposal after proposal .. that is their decision ..
And some great women just have bad luck .. been in many relationships .. trying everything possible to make it work .. but still it doesn't .. it just wasn't meant to be .. so that is destiny ..
And I know a few women who would like to have a partner .. not to live with .. but to experience stuff with .. to share with .. to communicate with .. not every single day .. but every now then .. get married ?? maybe .. but not in the traditional sense of marriage .. meaning, to be committed to the same someone cause they feel like it .. when they feel like it (provided they meet someone who shares the same sentiment) .. these are single some of the time, but again not in the traditional sense of being single .. and committed some of the time .. they made a choice .. to have both .. these women are in between ..
..I can’t really give a clear answer .. it could even be all of the above in one case .. I don’t know ..
The one thing I know is .. now a days in my culture .. many people who are married wish they would have remained single, and many singles, unlike decades ago, are very happy to have remained single ..
Either destiny or decision .. I think every one should make the best out of every situation .. single or married or in between, all still have so much to appreciate …
P.S.: All of the above could apply to men as well .. I just took the women’s perspective .. since the main question was about a woman ..
