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Showing posts with label selfdevelopment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label selfdevelopment. Show all posts
When you finally awaken from the trance you've been living, you see life more clearly. Life has a new meaning, ideas begin to flow and hope cloaks you like a veil ..
When you finally awaken you understand the truth, you see, hear and understand all that was intended for you ..
When you finally awaken, you no longer search for a way, you create the way ..
Webster’s Dictionary defines the word “Persevere” in this way:
“To persist in a state, enterprise, or undertaking in spite of counter influences, opposition, or discouragement.”
To “Persist” means: “To take a stand, stand firm; to go on resolutely or stubbornly in spite of opposition.
What is Perseverance?
Perseverance is the will to see things through until the end in spite of fear, obstacles, discouragement, and opposition. With perseverance, we can accomplish great things.
Here’s how to keep the practice of perseverance at the heart of everyday life to achieve the extraordinary.
Ask Yourself:
What are three goals you’d like to accomplish in the next three months?
What action steps do you need to take to reach these goals?
What are some reasons that may stop you from attaining these goals? (i.e. lack of time, money, fear, or self-doubt)
“I do not think there is any other quality so essential to success of any kind as the quality of perseverance. It overcomes almost everything, even nature.”- John D. Rockefeller
“Nothing can add more power to your life than concentrating all of your energies on a limited set of targets.”-Nido Qubein
“Keep away from people who belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.”- Mark Twain
This is so true we need to stay involved constantly in our business, learning always to achieve success .. Persevere and success will come to you .. Keep at it ..
Perseverance is a day-by-day decision not to give up .. Some situations, feelings, and challenges can, over time, cause us to lose heart or lose our way .. Fearlessness, guilt, joy, jealousy—are feelings that support or impede our efforts to persevere .. When we feel lost, overwhelmed, betrayed or exhausted, we need to know we have a choice for how we respond .. And we have to nurture the rewarding times, when we experience the joy of working together on something hard but worthwhile, when we realize we’ve made a small difference …
1. Commit to your Dream. Make a promise to yourself that you will keep the commitment to your goals; your dreams; your purpose, no matter what obstacles are presented to you along the way. Write this commitment down in a few sentences and what it means to you. Let it sink in. When an obstacle presents itself, read what you wrote and recommit to your dream. Vow never to waver so you are assured to stay on the path to success.
2. Keep a Positive Attitude. Stay optimistic and enthusiastic no matter how hard it can be at times. Help yourself to do this by creating a daily list of positive affirmations that counteract with your negative beliefs. For example, if you have a belief such as, “I don’t deserve to have what I want in my life,” replace it with, “I am attracting abundance and all that I want into my life.” Recite these affirmations daily until you have retrained your mind. Your positive attitude will help you through the tough times.
3. Stay focused. Determine what obstacles you are facing right now that are preventing you from pursuing goals and dreams. It could be fear, self-doubt, disappointments, or simply a lack of time or money. Acknowledge all of these hurdles by writing them down on paper. Now move past them by recommitting to your goal and fully understanding that nothing can stop your pursuit because you are being called to your greatness. Be unstoppable!
4. Bounce Back. Be a person who does not get discouraged easily. Be a person who handles rejection graciously by not taking anything personal. Be a person who is like this even if you are not. Rise to the occasion. With any setback, you will be challenged to make a choice of how you will react. The ability to make a choice is a gift. Choose to not beat yourself up, think about what happened, learn from your mistakes and, ultimately, press on for your own success.
And remember to stay strong, don’t let others steer us away from what’s in our heart!! We will eventually get there, just keep the fire burning within ..
Do you have a short fuse or find yourself getting into frequent arguments and fights? Anger is a normal, healthy emotion, but when chronic, explosive anger spirals out of control, it can have serious consequences for our relationships, our health, and our state of mind .. The following story made me think deeply about it ..
There was a little boy who had a bad temper…
Observing that his father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he must hammer a nail into the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. Over the next few weeks as he learned to control his anger, the number of nails hammered daily, gradually dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.
Finally the day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence.
He said… “you have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one.” You can put a knife in a man and draw it out. It won’t matter how many times you say I’m sorry, the wound is still there.
Moral: Make sure you control your temper the next time you are tempted to say something in anger ..
Some Dynamics of Anger
We become more angry when we are stressed and body resources are down.
We are rarely ever angry for the reasons we think.
We are often angry when we didn't get what we needed as a child.
We often become angry when we see a trait in others we can't stand in ourselves.
Underneath many current angers are old disappointments, traumas, and triggers.
Sometimes we get angry because we were hurt as a child.
We get angry when a current event brings up an old unresolved situation from the past.
We often feel strong emotion when a situation has a similar content, words or energy that we have felt before.
Ready to get your anger under control?
No. 1: Take a timeout
Counting to 10 isn't just for kids. Before reacting to a tense situation, take a few moments to breathe deeply and count to 10. Slowing down can help defuse your temper. If necessary, take a break from the person or situation until your frustration subsides a bit.
No. 2: Once you're calm, express your anger
As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but nonconfrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.
No. 3: Get some exercise
Physical activity can provide an outlet for your emotions, especially if you're about to erupt. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other favorite physical activities. Physical activity stimulates various brain chemicals that can leave you feeling happier and more relaxed than you were before you worked out.
No. 4: Think before you speak
In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
No. 5: Identify possible solutions
Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your child's messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening — or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything, and might only make it worse.
No. 6: Stick with 'I' statements
To avoid criticizing or placing blame — which might only increase tension — use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. For example, say, "I'm upset that you left the table without offering to help with the dishes," instead of, "You never do any housework."
No. 7: Don't hold a grudge
Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.
No. 8: Use humor to release tension
Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Don't use sarcasm, though — it can hurt feelings and make things worse.
No. 9: Practice relaxation skills
When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, "Take it easy." You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.
No. 10: Know when to seek help
Learning to control anger is a challenge for everyone at times. Consider seeking help for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you. You might explore local anger management classes or anger management counseling. With professional help, you can:
Learn what anger is
Identify what triggers your anger
Recognize signs that you're becoming angry
Learn to respond to frustration and anger in a controlled, healthy way
Explore underlying feelings, such as sadness or depression
I recently read an e-mail that posed this question: “Which are you a carrot, an egg or a cup of coffee?” The answer may surprise you and you will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again ..
What can a carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee teach a young woman tired of fighting and struggling with adversity and heartaches?
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as when one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans.
She let them sit and boil; without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what you see.”
“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, “What does it mean, mother?”
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.
The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.
However, the ground coffee beans were unique. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water. “Which are you?” she asked her daughter ..
When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Think of this: Which am I? A carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor.
If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level?
How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way .. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches ..
"In aiming at the life of blessedness, one of the simplest beginnings to be considered, and rightly made, is that which we all make every day-namely, the beginning of each day's life.
There is a sense in which every day may be regarded as the beginning of a new life, in which one can think, act, and live newly, and in a wiser and better spirit.
The right beginning of the day will be followed by a cheerfulness permeating the household with a sunny influence, and the tasks and duties of the day will be undertaken in a strong and confident spirit, and the whole day will be well lived."
A beginning is a cause, and as such it must be followed by an effect, or a train of effects, and the effect will always be of the same nature as the cause. The nature of an initial impulse will always determine the body of its results. A beginning also presupposes an ending, a consummation, achievement, or goal. A gate leads to a path, and the path leads to some particular destination; so a beginning leads to results, and results lead to a completion.
There are right beginnings and wrong beginnings, which are followed by effects of a like nature. You can, by careful thought, avoid wrong beginnings and make right beginnings, and so escape evil results and enjoy good results.
There are beginnings over which you have no control and authority- these are without, in the universe, in the world of nature around you, and in other people who have the same liberty as yourself.
Do not concern yourself with these beginnings, but direct your energies and attention to those beginnings over which you have complete control and authority, and which bring about the complicated web of results which compose your life.
These beginnings are to be found in the realm of your own thoughts and actions; in your mental attitude under the variety of circumstances through which you pass; in your conduct day by day - in short, in your life as you make it, which is your world of good or ill.
In aiming at the life of Blessedness one of the simplest beginnings to be considered and rightly made is that which we all make everyday - namely, the beginning of each day's life.
How do you begin each day? At what hour do you rise? How do you commence your duties? In what frame of mind do you enter upon the sacred life of a new day? What answer can you give your heart to these important questions? You will find that much happiness or unhappiness follows upon the right or wrong beginning of the day, and that, when every day is wisely begun, happy and harmonious sequences will mark its course, and life in its totality will not fall far short of the ideal blessedness.
It is a right and strong beginning to the day to rise at an early hour. Even if your worldly duty does not demand it, it is wise to make of it a duty, and begin the day strongly by shaking off indolence. How are you to develop strength of will and mind and body if you begin every day by yielding to weakness? Self-indulgence is always followed by unhappiness. People who lie in bed till a late hour are never bright and cheerful and fresh, but are the prey of irritabilities, depressions, debilities, nervous disorders, abnormal fancies, and all unhappy moods. This is the heavy price which they have to pay for their daily indulgence. Yet, so blinding is the pandering to self that, like the drunkard who takes his daily dram in the belief that it is bracing up the nerves which it is all the time shattering, so the lie-a-bed is convinced that long hours of ease are necessary for him as a possible remedy for those very moods and weaknesses and disorders of which his indulgence is the cause. Men and women are totally unaware of the great losses which they entail by this common indulgence: loss of strength both of mind and body, loss of prosperity, loss of knowledge, and loss of happiness.
Begin the day, then, by rising early. If you have no object in doing so, never mind; get up, and go out for a gentle walk among the beauties of nature, and you will experience a buoyancy, a freshness, and a delight, not to say a peace of mind, which will amply reward you for your effort. One good effort is followed by another; and when a man begins the day by rising early, even though with no other purpose in view, he will find that the silent early hour is conducive to clearness of mind and calmness of thought, and that his early morning walk is enabling him to become a consecutive thinker, and so to see life and its problems, as well as himself and his affairs, in a clearer light; and so in time he will rise early with the express purpose of preparing and harmonizing his mind to meet any and every difficulty with wisdom and calm strength.
There is, indeed, a spiritual influence in the early morning hour, a divine silence and an inexpressible repose, and he who, purposeful and strong, throws off the mantle of ease and climbs the hills to greet the morning sun will thereby climb no inconsiderable distance up the hills of blessedness and truth.
The right beginning of the day will be followed by cheerfulness at the morning meal, permeating the house-hold with a sunny influence; and the tasks and duties of the day will be undertaken in a strong and confident spirit, and the whole day will be well lived.
Then there is a sense in which every day may be regarded as the beginning of a new life, in which one can think, act, and live newly, and in a wiser and better spirit.
"Every day is a fresh beginning; Every morn is the world made new, Ye who are weary of sorrow and sinning, Here is a beautiful hope for you, A hope for me and a hope for you."
“Creativity is inventing, experimenting, growing, taking risks, breaking rules, making mistakes, and having fun.” (Mary Lou Cook)
Psychological research has shown that staying in a good mood induces creativity in individuals .. We become more receptive to information and ideas from our environment and thus are more likely to think-out-of-the-box .. When we are depressed or negative, we become fixated to just few views, causing our mind to be inflexible ..
We should plug in our earphones on a daily basis and listen to inspiring music and audios as we work .. it is surprising how ideas can connect from one medium to another .. Sometimes creativity seems to hide within our subconscious and it can only be realized when we express ourselves freely, be it through writing, drawing, singing or even dancing to our favorite tunes .. All we need is to put down our problems temporarily so that our subconscious mind is able to work on them without our conscious efforts ..
A lifestyle that is too systematic is not the ideal environment to nurture creativity .. We need to do something different every now and then to stimulate our mind .. We must unlock our brain cells and let our mind wander the world of imagination .. Do not put limitations in the process of creating new ideas .. The Mind is an incredible thinking machine that can come up with a lot of incredible ideas that we would not have thought of .. So, just let it maneuver its way …
“What a man really wants is creative challenge with sufficient skills to bring him within the reach of success so that he may have the expanding joy of achievement.”(Fay B. Nash)
Never let a bad day make you feel like you have a bad life .. Just because today is painful doesn’t mean tomorrow won’t be great .. You just got to get there .. The best things usually happen when you least expect it .. So try to smile in the mean time .. And Have hope and not give up .. Not because life has been easy, perfect, or exactly as you had anticipated, but because you choose to be happy and grateful for all the good things you do have and all the problems you know you don’t have .. Negativity is a very nasty and contagious disease .. Remove yourself from all negative people, situations, and things .. Choosing to be positive will help you maintain a better attitude, better health, and mind set ..
“Life is a unique combination of “want to” and “how to,” and we need to give equal attention to both.” — Jim Rohn
According to the Ancient Egyptian mythology, God Ptah the Creator thought then spoke and the world became ..
“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”~ Napoleon Hill
The brain is in a constant process of thought. It never stops thinking. It even thinks when you are not trying to think. It is activated by our senses, things we see, touch or hear. This is why we need to be careful of what goes into our heads.
Some thoughts we have about ourselves or people around us are just a conclusions that are driven by our culture, morals, beliefs and past experiences … If one person thinks he is not very bright then he is probably thinking that people around him are judging him in that same negative way … The people around him have no clue on what’s going on in his head! It’s our own thoughts that we turn into reality …
Most people have it back to front, believing that they feel or think a certain way because of their circumstances, not knowing the truth that it is their thought power that is creating those very circumstances, whether wanted or unwanted. By internalizing and applying this Truth, that your thoughts create your reality, you will grant yourself the power to create the changes you want to see manifest in your life … Reality creation is an inside job … The attractive power of any particular thought is determined by how often you have that thought and by the strength of the feelings or emotions associated with it … The more energy you give to a particular thought, the greater its power to attract its corresponding circumstance into your physical world through the Law of Attraction.
The basic premise of the Law of Attraction is that like energy attracts like energy … You attract to yourself those things and circumstances that are in harmony with what goes on in your mind … Mike Dooley, one of the presenters of the movie The Secret, fittingly suggests that if you want to know what a thought looks like, just look around you. Keep in mind these three words “thoughts are things”.
When we think of something negative we’re probably going to process everything in that same negative way … A negative thought cancels the benefit of a positive thought and vice versa … If we think we don’t look good, when we look in the mirror we are just going to notice our flaws … In contrast, if we think we look good we can look in the mirror and see just the beauty that God has given us … It’s a form of gratitude actually; to learn how to think positively about one self is another way of thanking God for his creation ..
To instantly neutralize the power of a negative thought, calmly and deliberately replace it with its opposite, positive equivalent. For instance, if you think to yourself “I’m not good enough, I will never succeed”, mentally replace that thought with “I am good enough and success comes to me easily”. You can also use the “cancel, cancel” technique made famous by the Silva Method. Each time you catch yourself thinking an unwanted thought, mentally tell yourself and the Universe “cancel, cancel” and immediately follow it up with a positive statement …
To change your circumstances and attract to your self that which you choose, you must learn to programme and re-programme your subconscious mind … The most effective and practical way to do so, is to learn the simple process of creative visualization … making use of thought power to consciously imagine, create and attract that which you choose. Your imagination is the engine of your thoughts. It converts your thought power into mental images, which are in turn manifested in the physical realm …
“ Verily never will God change the condition of a people until they change it themselves”-Quran (13:11)
“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.”-Siddhartha Gautama Buddha
To cut it short, your life is the perfect mirror of your thoughts, beliefs and dominant mental attitude. Whether you realize it or not you are already creating your reality through your thought power. Every effect you see in your outside world has its original cause within you – no exceptions. To gain access to the greatest creative power at your disposal, you must learn to control the nature of your thoughts and to align yourself with the One Source of All Power of which you are a part. Your thoughts create your reality – know, internalize and apply this Truth and you will see your life transform in miraculous ways.
Just a quick thought for today from the thoughts of the great “Rumi” ..
“Sorrow prepares you for joy .. it violently sweeps everything out of your house .. so that new joy can find space to enter .. it shakes the yellow leaves from the bough of your heart, so that fresh, green leaves can grow in their place .. it pulls up the rotten roots, so that new roots hidden beneath have room to grow .. Whatever sorrow shakes from your heart, far better things will take their place .. “
I see so much heartache, sadness and stress everyday that I have been trying my best to post funny articles every now and then to try and bring some laughter to our hearts!!! I know that there are a lot of us hurting out there these days and just 1 smile a day might help someone!!
For all of you out there who have had to deal with an irate customer, this one is for you.
A crowded United Airlines flight was canceled. A single agent was re-booking a long line of inconvenienced travelers. Suddenly, an angry passenger pushed his way to the desk. He slapped his ticket on the counter and said, “I HAVE to be on this flight and it has to be FIRST CLASS.”
The agent replied, “I’m sorry, sir. I’ll be happy to try to help you, but I’ve got to help these folks first; and then I’m sure we’ll be able to work something out.” The passenger was unimpressed. He asked loudly, so that the passengers behind him could hear, “DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA WHO I AM?”
Without hesitating, the agent smiled and grabbed her public address microphone. “May I have your attention, please?”, she began, her voice heard clearly throughout the terminal. “We have a passenger here at Gate 14 WHO DOES NOT KNOW WHO HE IS. If anyone can help him with his identity, please come to Gate 14″.
With the folks behind him in line laughing hysterically, the man glared at the United Airlines agent, gritted his teeth, and said, “F*** You!”
Without flinching, she smiled and said, “I’m sorry sir, you’ll have to get in line for that, too.”
Whether this story is true or not it’s a great lesson for turning a stressful situation into a humorous one. I’m sure there were several unhappy customers and she was able to put a smile on their faces. It sure reminded me of similar situations I had with some guests as a tour leader and sure made me laugh!
stay strong, don’t let others steer us away from what’s in our heart!! We will eventually get there, just keep the fire burning within ..
“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.
If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level?
on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches ..
